From nasty lies and persistent half-truths –
and what is especially true for your first time
Sex is talked about a lot. Unfortunately, not always accurately. Somewhere between Hollywood, half-truths, and hearsay, myths are born — and they tend to stick around longer than any good excuse. What we see in movies looks effortless and perfectly timed. But real intimacy doesn’t follow a script. Still, we let those images guide us — and feel uncertain when reality turns out differently.
Especially the first time, or when beginners try something new – like anal sex or toys – these half-truths quickly create unnecessary insecurity. So it's time to banish them from the bedroom for good.
1. " The clitoris is just this little button "
Ah, if only it were that simple. The clitoris is significantly larger than what you see externally. It extends into the body and plays the main role in most orgasms.
Especially the first time, it often fails because she is ignored. Penetration alone is not enough for many women.
Mystim tip for beginners:
👉 A precise lay-on vibrator like the Heart’s Desire was specifically developed for clitoral stimulation, delivering targeted impulses — with or without E-Stim. Ideal for beginners who want to discover what truly works for them.
2. "Men think about sex every seven seconds"
If that were true, no tax return in the world would ever be completed. In reality, men think about sex an average of about 19 times a day – not 8,000 times.
An important point for the first time:
If he’s not “instantly ready,” it’s nothing dramatic. Pressure is the biggest desire killer. And sometimes closeness, a good conversation, or simply sitting together on the couch can be just as meaningful.
3. "Anal sex damages the sphincter muscle"
No, your butt won't turn into a sliding door after a passionate session. The sphincter muscle is a muscle – it works, relaxes, and regenerates. For anal sex beginners: Start slowly, use plenty of lubricant and focus on relaxation.
👉 Mystim recommendation for the first time with E:
A small, beginner-friendly plug like our Rocking Force S, combined with a power box like the Tension Lover 2, allows for controlled intensity instead of overwhelm. Perfect for cautiously exploring.
4. "Size is everything"
The myth of "the bigger, the better" persists.
Spoiler alert: Technique, communication, and timing trump centimeters. Most pleasure nerves are located in the outer area – so an XXL size is no guarantee of ecstasy. More important than the measuring tape is knowing how to use it.
Especially the first time, it's important to listen to each other instead of comparing.
5. "Women don't orgasm through vaginal sex alone"
There's a grain of truth to that. Only about 30% achieve orgasm that way. The rest need additional clitoral stimulation – which brings us back to the first point!
For beginners, this means:
Toys are not competition – they are amplifiers .
👉 Level up your foreplay:
The Sleak Freak combines vibration and E-Stim in a compact, easy-to-handle design. This allows you to explore different intensity levels and expand your personal pleasure repertoire in any position or situation.
6. "Masturbation makes you blind"
If that were true, we'd all be using guide dogs by now. Masturbation is perfectly healthy and has absolutely no negative effects on the body – quite the opposite! It helps reduce stress, improves sleep, and enhances body awareness. So: Don't panic, the only thing that might suffer is your self-discipline if you just wanted to "quickly go to the bathroom."
Especially before the first time, it helps you get to know your own body. Knowing what feels good makes you more confident in your communication.
7. "Men are always in the mood"
No. Men also have periods of low libido. Stress, fatigue, or mental strain can all have an effect. It's perfectly okay if he's not feeling particularly aroused sometimes. It doesn't mean he doesn't want you – just that he might simply prefer Netflix to relaxing.
This applies to beginners as well as experienced couples: desire is not a permanent function.
Sex myths about the first time – what beginners should really know
The first time – whether it's sex in general, anal sex, or using e-stim toys – doesn't have to be perfect. It can be curious, slow, and even a little chaotic.
Most problems don’t arise from a lack of technique, but from unrealistic expectations and missing communication. Being open about what feels good (and what doesn’t) reduces pressure and builds trust. Approach it together, speak honestly with each other, and focus on enjoying the moment instead of judging it.
Conclusion: Sex is great – but it gets even better when we approach it with the right facts.
Sex is great – but it gets even better when we approach it with the right facts. So, enough with the myths and let's have some real knowledge! Those who don't let themselves be guided by false assumptions end up having not only better, but also more relaxed sex.
In other words: Less half-knowledge, more relaxation – and if desired, with a little technical support from Mystim .
