BDSM Punishments: From Figging to Forniphilia
The biggest punishment: not doing it!
BDSM has an incredible number of pleasurable facets. But the erotic core and the most thrilling pleasure in bondage, SM and the like is definitely deep in the various punishment variants! For both the dominant and the submissive partner: Here everyone can live out their respective preferences in their respective roles in a completely individual way.
How to keep the (evil) overview between spanking, tickle torture and ginger in unusual places is explained here!
BDSM Punishments – Why?
The appeal of BDSM basically lies in the fact that a submissive person (sub) submits to a dominant person (dom). Both roles can of course be taken on by both sexes!
The pleasurable power imbalance can be limited to the bedroom and the four walls of one's own home or even turn the whole world into an erotic playground - depending on the inclinations and experiences of the partners involved. No matter where and when the Dom humiliates the sub or orders him/her to perform submissive but nevertheless arousing tasks: If the sub messes up his task, he must be punished!
There are actually no limits to your imagination when it comes to punishment... apart from common sense and a few basic rules, which you can read about here.
But otherwise, everything is allowed, from inserted and remote-controlled sex toys in public to physical punishments at home. In addition to many popular "classics" that we will introduce shortly, the punishments naturally also depend on creative desire and a very individual integration of one's own personalities, life situations and preferences - what turns Team A on may leave Team B completely cold. So diligent experimentation is definitely part of it!
The most popular punishments – for him and her
spanking
The supreme discipline of spanking the ass! The English word "to spank" means "to beat/to spank" and is usually fun even for those who do not see themselves as BDSM fans. But it is mainly experienced BDSM fans who love it. The special pleasurable pain of spanking is not only a punishment ritual but also a real turn-on. When spanking the bottom and thighs in particular, the stimulated and well-perfused nerves in the pubic region act like a seething volcano for the increasingly pulsating sexual organs. The power for the Dom therefore lies not only in the humiliation of the spanking itself, but also in the fact that he can now forbid the extremely aroused sub from any further sexual acts ... what torture!
The professional BDSM hardware leaves no wish unfulfilled: riding crops, paddles made of wood and/or with leather covering, whips in various designs and intensifying gloves make you mentally clap while fantasizing!
figging
The oddity of the word continues in practice - because figging turns you on in the truest sense of the word! This centuries-old Japanese BDSM and SM punishment practice comes very noticeably from the old traditions that are rooted in the Far East.
Figging involves peeling a ginger root about the size of a finger and artfully carving it into a kind of anal plug or anal dildo, which is then inserted into the anus. The essential oils in the ginger cause immediate pain through a sharp burning sensation, which, despite its intensity, is completely harmless. Important tip: When carving, leave a slightly wider platform at the back so that you can grip the ginger well and avoid it "completely disappearing".
Figging is a really special punishment that the sub can't possibly ignore. Similar to spanking, the blood flow and nerves in the abdomen are stimulated very strongly and make sexual acts on the primary sexual organs - if the Dom allows them - incredibly intense and the orgasms much more intense!
tickle torture
Although this BDSM and SM punishment dates back to the Middle Ages and was mostly used as interrogation torture, it still provides very truth-intensive moments of power today.
During the kiltzel torture, the sub can live out his desires between total loss of control and almost unbearable touches, while the Dom enjoys the loud cries for mercy when the most intense areas of the body are kiltzeled.
The basic requirement is that the sub is immobilized and completely unable to move. This is the only way he can be completely submissive to the Dom's tickling. The areas of the body that react particularly sensitively are of course the most popular - these can be the primary and secondary sexual organs, but do not have to be! The feet in particular make this practice a real punishment. Tickling can be carried out with hands, feathers, sticks and other aids. The main thing is that real limits are tested ... or exceeded.
rimming
Rimming is also called anal-oral or ass licking. Originally it was a torture and subjugation method from the Middle Ages, but even today there are still enthusiastic lickers and licked-up people. The nerve endings on the bottom and especially on the anus react incredibly sensitively to stimuli and the tongue can be used very imaginatively there: wet kissing, licking and anus penetration with the tongue.
Precisely because the ass is a somewhat "dirty" place for oral sex (you can find all the information about this here!), rimming can be used perfectly for meaningful power games. The medieval torture DNA is still present in every ass licking order given in SM or BDSM. The Dom enjoys the intense stimulation of the anus and the humiliation of the sub - and the sub enjoys the submissive role of the punished during the licking.
Punishments can be made more intense by immobilizing the sub's head and having the Dom point his bottom towards the immobilized sub. Smotherboxes, for example, are used for this purpose 1000 years ago and still today: a special rimming wooden box for the sub's head, with an opening over the face and mouth, on which the Dom sits. No escape!
Read more about wild rimming fun, possible concerns and why it should be part of your sex life even without a catalogue of punishments here!
bastinado
What is a foot massage for one person is a bastinado for another! The Italian term bastonata means a beating with a stick and thus hits the nail on the head with this SM and BDSM punishment. It involves beating the bare soles of the feet with a stick. Once again, contemporary fans of punishment have made use of an ancient method that was used as a form of punishment and torture more than three thousand years ago.
The fact that the sole of the foot is known for intensive touch stimuli is demonstrated by the worldwide popularity of foot reflexology massages and the special sensuality of erotic foot massages.
The erotic, punishing bastinado is much more severe than a massage. The enormous density of nerve cells in the sole of the foot not only transports circular finger movements to the brain at lightning speed, but also an almost explosive pain of pleasure.
It is important that the sub is restrained and the Dom slowly increases the strength of the blows! Then the pleasure increases on both sides and the sub is guaranteed to realize that he deserves it!
electrostimulation
This particular form of punishment - and sex practice - does not originate from the Middle Ages for a change... but it certainly would if electricity had existed 1000 years earlier! Despite its modern character, this modern method of punishment has already become a real classic and is firmly anchored in the BDSM and SM scene.
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Forniphilia
Lack of freedom of movement is and remains an essential component of SM and BDSM practices – and of course especially in punishments.
Forniphilia is a very special form of "fixation". It is incredibly humiliating and punishing, as it binds the sub primarily mentally. And on top of that it turns them into a thing/object without a will of their own: As a punishment or humiliation ritual, the sub must become a piece of furniture that serves the Dom.
To do this, he/she must remain motionless for hours, naked or in clothing ordered by the Dom - sometimes with local fixations. His/her function can be that of a clothes rack, for example, or, if the Dom wants to touch him/her more actively and thus humiliate him/her more intensely, he/she can serve as a footrest or table, from which the Dom even eats.
Absolute ignoring because the sub is left to stand in a dark closet or back room as a clothes rack for hours can of course also be very, very punishing – and only makes the sub even more submissive afterwards!
And don't forget: Of course, a piece of furniture needs to be polished regularly! ;-)
diaper punishment
The diaper punishment is a humiliation that falls under the umbrella term infantilism. In this BDSM fetish, the submissive person has to imitate a baby to show the Dom and themselves how small and helpless they are. They let the Dom look after them like a toddler and usually have to wear a pacifier and, above all, a diaper. The power imbalance that the roles bring with them excites both partners in different ways.
Wearing a diaper and a pacifier creates a very variable but desired cocktail of emotions for the Dom, consisting of humiliation and security.
The Dom in this role play can be a parent, an aunt, an uncle or a doctor, for example. He changes the baby's diapers, gives him orders and, of course, punishes him.
The exercise of power in a punishment can, for example, be a ban on using the toilet for the diaper wearer - or even the order to wear the diaper under clothing in everyday life.
IMPORTANT: Infantilism is a fetish that reflects the power imbalance between Dom and Sub in an unusual role play and should therefore not be confused with or standardized as pedophilia! Role play is not about performing sexual acts, but about living out the clearly defined roles and enjoying the strong power imbalance.
punishments for the slave
Tying up , immobilizing or unsettling by stopping with erotic games just before climax are just a few of the variations. There are no limits to the imaginative world of punishments for slaves. In addition to figging or spanking, mental punishments such as ignoring or erotic games with the female nakedness can be used. Living out the roles of the power imbalance in public - usually in a kind of "undercover variant" - offers many couples an enormous attraction and a very long-lasting gain in pleasure.
More ideas:
- Pamper the Dom without hands and without the mouth and still bring him to a magnificent orgasm.
- “Eating from the floor” – your plate simply sits next to the table.
- Orgasm ban – during sex she has to let you know just before she comes. Then it's stopped and she just has to bring the Dom to his goal.
- Cleaning naked – or in sexy lingerie
- ice cube treatment on the whole body
- The “naked passenger” – and then off into the city
- Housework with bell clamps on nipples and labia: and ringing is forbidden!
- 24 hours of living, loving and suffering blindfolded
- Enemas: Insert half a liter of water vaginally and hold under the supervision of the Dom for 15 minutes.
- Strom and the City: The Dom takes his slave out to dinner, for example, while she has to wear a deeply inserted pleasure egg that stimulates her intensely with every movement and every step. The Dom's power reaches a special peak when he can deliver the vibrations of the pleasure egg and seductive and ecstatically stimulating bursts of electrostimulation to the pulsating vaginal walls of his slave - while she is just ordering her main course from the waiter...
- This perfect combination of powerful technology and powerful orgasms is offered by the digital E-Stim Cluster Buster in combination with the Egg-cellent Egon Lustei with E-Stim function.
A perfect dominance duo to be begged for “mercy!” and “keep going!” at the same time ;-)
SM punishments for men
The weaker sex likes to submit - and also likes to suffer passionately. The attraction and desire for men to submit and be dominated is great. And it is getting greater and greater. The range of punishments and orders that the mistress or master can give is almost inexhaustible. From degrading nicknames, the complete surrender of one's own will to physical torture, both roles have a large and very attractive playing field open to them. Some men like to be dressed in women's clothing, kiss the Dom's feet or suffer during figging, the bastinado or as a useless piece of furniture.
More ideas for men's punishments:
- Cooking naked and lying under the table like a good dog while the sub eats.
- Having to wear one of her blouses or lipsticks in everyday life
- Wear the dilator for a whole day
- 24 hours only commands: Sit!, Stay!, Scream!, Lick!, etc.
- Erect penis as a towel holder – and woe betide the towel if it falls...
- He has to go shopping for you – and bring back a perfect outfit
(Light!) Testicle Spanking
- Orgasm is forbidden – if he fails, he has to swallow himself.
- No underwear at work/in everyday life – best to wear old jeans.
- 24 hours of crawling
- Picture of your own penis for a week as background image on your smartphone
- 24 hour anal plug wear
- Ask master/mistress for permission for every action, no matter how small – if you are separated geographically, also by SMS
- Electricity: You can also use the sub as a motionless floor lamp, but there are even better options for games with electricity: The punishment that was developed especially FOR HIM - and ensures absolute power for his Dom/Dominatrix - is penis cages! Not only do they keep unauthorized erections in check and prevent any kind of erotic touching of the penis, they can also make it clear who wears the pants - and who can only wear a penis cage, thanks to externally controllable e-stim functions!
- A perfect BDSM companion for submissive men with naughty penises is the Public Enemy No. 1 by Mystim.
Important basic rules for BDSM punishments
safe word
Be sure to agree on a safe word beforehand to avoid unpleasant and painful experiences! As soon as the word is said, there is a strict "truce". This is important because crossed boundaries usually leave scars on more than just the outside.
A little tip: Of course, don’t use something like “Harder!” or words that are way too complicated.
Safety First for more pleasure:
Knowing that you can stop at any time often makes you more relaxed about pushing yourself to “harder” limits.
First talk, then do
It's completely OK and important that you push your limits in your head beforehand, through an open conversation.
A certain amount of risk plays a key role in determining the excitement – but the greatest pleasure comes from staying just below critical limits. This makes it longer, more intense and more fulfilling for both sides.
And please don't drink alcohol during your pre-game conversation! It will only distort your inhibitions and your perception of pain.
Keeping “bad” emotions out
Anyone who has had a serious and long-lasting argument in their relationship in the morning should not slip into BDSM roles in the evening without a word of clarification and let off steam with punishments. Emotions are important for BDSM and sensual-dominating punishments, but "bad" emotions have no place here!
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